Category: Parent Talk
i've wore noah on me since he was born. he's loved the close contact. he's always been on my chest but recently i got a new sling called ergo, which enables me to wear him on my chest back or hip, and we both love it. but anyway, i just wanted to see how many other baby wearing mommys there were on here.
and i'm trying to bring some life back to this board!
i used to wear savannah. but i no longer do. my back can't handle the extra weight anymore. i used a sling mostly when she was under 6 months. then a snuggly. i was going to look into getting a different carrier, but i don't see the point now. i still hold her a lot, but just don't wear her around anymore.
and i also would love to see some life in this board. it's nice to have a place to talk to other parents. nothing against my friends without kids, but they don't want to talk babies all the time.
i agree pipi, all i can talk about is noah so people get bord quickly.
but anyway, you should try wearing her on your hip or back, it helps distribute the wate so it doesn't make your back or sholders hurt. i know it sounds crazy, but the ccarrier i have holds up to 60 pounds or till the kid is 5, not that i plan on wearing him that long, because that's just crazy, he'd be hainging down to my toes. but it's nice because as a blind momma, i can keep abeter handle on him speshelly in malls and what not where the crouds are large. he likes riding on my back but my hair is down to my butt so it is a painful thing for me, speshilly cause he likes pulling it o so much.
not a parent yet but want to be - what kind of sling do either of you most recommend? do you practice attachment style parenting or any other alternative?
I love talking baby! I love trying out different slings and carriers. I wore my daughter in a wrap when she was first born. We then switched to a sling, and now that she has head controol I use a Mae Tai carrier.
Check out
www.thebabywearer.com
I thought about using the mei tai, but I just didn't like the way it was made, aww well. and when noah was first born i tried using a rap, but never felt too comfortable in it, i was always afraid he'd fall out or something. they just never seemed too stirdy to me, so i gave my wrap to my sister.
the only one i can reccomend, would be the ergo carrier, but it's expincive.
i don't know how i'd explain my parrenting tecniques, I don't do extreme atatchment parrenting, but alot of my beliefs and the way I do things would go along the lines of atachment parrenting. I do believe that there really is no right or wrongway of parrenting, as long as the kiddo is loved and taken well care of then your doing the right thing. the brand of clothes you buy, or if you choose to go all organic or what ever shouldn't make you a good or bad parrent. just my 2 since.
if i could do it all over again, i'd definantly do alot of things differently, like cloth diapering and things like that, but what's done is done.
I have no children yet, but i do wear the ones i watch when I watch them, as I wholeheartedly support the practice. And if i can have my own babies, I'll definitely wear them all for sure until they are around four or too heavy for me to carry.
We are all different here, and that is not a bad thing. We can actually learn a lot from one another. If you want to know the truth, my parenting style is quite unique and I know for a fact that most people would not even consider it. It is very different, hard to understand, and many cannot wrap their heads around it, but that is okay because we are individuals.
I'd say that my parenting style would definitely be that of consensual living, which is far different from what most would ever consider. I believe that the rights of both children and adults are equally important and should be given the same consideration. I do not believe in rewards, punishments, or too many rules. I also do not believe too much in telling children what to do but let them make their own choices as much as humanly possible. this site will give you all the information you want, if you want to know more about the practice.
Thanks for trying to keep this board alive. i'll help you if you'd like.
Pipi, I'm childless but love talking babies. Children are my life, and I dream of having lots and lotsof them if it is possible. I'm what you call baby and child crazy. I have all the patience in the world when it comes to infants and children. And Bad Influence, talk about Noah all you want. You have a right to be proud of your baby boy. What parent isn't proud of their children?
I found a baby wearers group on
www.meetup.com
It was helpful to try out different carriers before I bought them. I'm definitely looking into buying an Ergo for when my dd is over the Mae Tai's weight limit, and the tying can be hard with a wiggly seven month old.
It's wonderful to see this topic here. I'm a new mama to an almost 9 week old baby boy. His name is Solomon and he's utterly adorable. I'm totally blind and nervous about wearing him. I love cooking and baking but don't want to splatter him with food or grease etc. Also blasts of heat wouldn't be good either. Add to this that he was born deaf and he's breastfed. I'm not sure what to do here. All I know is I have a velcrow baby here who doesn't want to be put down. I want to give him the stimulation he needs and make healthy food for us. Any advice would be most appreciated. Tiffany
you don't need to be afraid, you'll find it comes perfictly natral after a short time. babys love being so close, and they adapt to it imediatly. after he gets older you can wear him on your back, that will make it where you don't have to worrie about cooking, greace splatters or any thing like that, i really don't have any tips on that aspect because my son is never ever allowed in the kitchen. that's one of our stricter rules. it's just too easy for him to get hurt in there. when i'm not wearing him he is always under my feet hainging on to my pants leg or something and i just couldn't maneuver around him wile taking a pot of boiling water from the stove to the sink or sutch and sutch. so i just never ever wor him in the kitchen. I just didn't want to get him uce to being in there, different parrents will do things verry differently, i suggest if no one elce gives you any better tips, to just take his carrier or his stroler or bouncer or something and putting him in the kichen with you but out of the way, and touch him from time to time to let him know that your still there. my sone is a bit oldr then yours, but i put him in his highchair in the intrance to the kitchen where he can still see me and I play little games with him to keep him intertained or I give him a snack to munch on wile i'm cooking dinner. i'm asuming your baby can see, you didn't minchen him being blind only def, so play peek a boo with him, or make faces at him or hand jestures or any thing you think will keep his attenchen, I even dance some times. lol.
sorry I couldn't be of better help.
but don't be afraid of wearing him, try different carriers and see which is comfortable for you. i suggest getting one where you can wear him in different positions when he gets older, because as he grows your going to need to distribute the wate in other places to make it easier on your back. but for now, since he's only 2 months he'll do grate on your chest. and most emportantly, love that baby! and love him a little for me because he sounds adorible.
He's not quite at the point where he can be put down for long periods. About 15 minutes on daddy is the best I get. This definitely helps though. He's feeling a little more secure every day. He can see so we've started investigating fingerspelling and asl to begin language training. Have any of you ever read or met a blind mom of a deaf baby? I'm completely lost for resources. There are plenty of sites for deaf-blind babies and even def-blind parents but most sites assume that if you're hearing your also sighted.I know that language is learned far easier in a medium the child understands. That means I'll have to meet him where he is and not force him to speak just because it would be good for me. We accepted his deafness right away and don't wish it were otherwise.I hope I can learn all I need to and not lose time for him to learn the best way possible. Sorry for such a long post but there's really noone besides my husband to go to for support. Thanks for listening. Tiffany
hi i love your screen name. here are a couple thoughts for you.
are you aware that most states have a program for disabled babies. ours is called early id. you can call your local school system and they can direct you to the best place to start. it is totally free. they have all kinds of professionals who come to the home to help with providing teaching strategies etc. my daughter, husband, and i are all blind, and almost 20 years ago, when she was born, we were the youngest parents to use the service in our part of maryland. i signed up when she was 3 days old. anyway, the earlier you develop communications skills with your son the better off all of you will be. our church has a large ministry for deaf people. we learned from observation that deaf kids or kids of deaf parents who sign often talk earlier then their sighted counterparts. people tell me it is so cute to see little babies signing to themsellves.
i forgot about the thing that this message was supposed to be about. keep the baby in your sight. hyou don'thave to have him on you all the time especially when cooking. i often put my son and daughter right near me. i would pat them, tickle, and talk to them while cooking. they got the ambiance but not the danger.
yes, our program is called early childhood intervenchen, noah has been in this program since he came home from the hospital because he was over two months premature. they work with children who have many many different disabilitys, learning blocks and even fisickle disabilitys. they started coming in to the house every two weeks, and they pritty much just play with him in the beginning, watching to see if he tracks toys from one side to the other, and evenchuilly they teach him how to grasp toys and then a phisical tharipist comes in to help learn how to role over sit up crall and stand, i'm sure your case would be different but let me just say, please please don't think these people are coming in to your home to take your baby away, there not, there amazing people who are perfictly picked for there job, they love babys and over time you'll grow to love them they come to your house and work with the baby in his oan setting so he doesn't get stressed out and that's perhaps the best part about them. they even offer mommy and daddy counceling, not saying that you'd need it but sometimes when you have a baby with speshal needs, you just need to vint, and that's ok. I am not sure what state your in but i'm in texas and here it's called once again, early childhood intervenchen, or ECI, and the program is threw easter ceals of texas.
I wish you luck, you sound like a wonderful mom who only wants the best for her baby.
My name is little foot.
My child is 4 months.
She was born on Aprail 19 2010.
I were her on my chest with the snuggley it is great.
this topic is really interesting. I am not yet a parent, but I do have many questions regarding this kind of thing... I may chime in with what I've seen people do, but will probably have more questions... Thanks for the advice though regarding carriers you recommend....
I'm not familiar with this practice. What is the point of wearing a baby? Does it make it easier for a blind parent to perform daily living tasks whilst carrying around a child? Is it meant to enable parents to keep track of their children? Or is it a form of attachment parenting? Or all of the above?
Becky
As a new parent I can't really recommend much to you but I do like the sling for my baby boy. He's about 1 and a half months and he loves being in the sling. The only problem though is he's totally used to being carried or being rocked so he doesn't like sleeping in his bassinette anymore, he'd much rather sleep in the swing, or in my arms. He'll sleep in the bed but only if mommy or daddy is there with him. Anyway going back to baby wearing, I use the sling when I take Michael out with me. The rap is especially good if you're breastfeeding because he's just right there on your chest and you have easy access to just pop out your boob and feed him. I guess you could do that with certain slings as well but the one I have is a bit more snug on me so he's pretty close to my chest.